Positive Body Image

Something I really believe in is that everyone should have a positive body image. Whether you’re skinny, average or chubby – I think we should all learn to view our bodies in a positive light.

Now, this isn’t easy – and it’s something I struggle with myself every day.

I’ve never been a skinny girl, but after I got sick a few years ago the pounds have piled on – and I’m having a hard time accepting the way I look today. I want to though. I want to believe that I can be pretty and look good no matter what size I wear.

It’s just not that easy. But I’m working on it. I want to feel confident – and it shouldn’t have to do with weight. I wasn’t feeling very confident when I was a lot smaller than I am now – and so I think that I need to learn to love myself no matter what.

Ironically I think other women are gorgeous at all sizes. I’m envious of the singer Beth Ditto because she has so much confidence. She doesn’t care about her size, and I think she’s beautiful.

Beth Ditto

It’s something I need to work on. Because I don’t want to one day have a daughter and have my own insecurities rub off on her. And so I’m resolving to learn to love myself – whether I stay this size, lose weight, gain weight. You name it – I am going to friggin’ love myself.


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  1. Oh hell yeah – Beth Ditto *swoons*. She’s just so utterly awesome with her ‘this is me so deal with it’ thing. One of the most beautiful women I ever met was a LOT bigger than me. Like, really a whole lot. She was part Hawaiian and STUNNING. Make your jaw hit the floor stunning. It’s got naff all to do with size, IMO.

    I’m very careful, having teenager daughters myself, about what I say with regards to weight and body image. I *try* to impress upon them the value of healthy eating (not hard when youngest gags if you put a vegetable near her…) and of exercise but I never do the ‘omg I wish I was thin’ thing… because basically I don’t.

    Himself and I were chatting a while back about whether, hypothetically, one would take the ‘perfect’ (in society’s eyes) body if you could just have it appear, with no effort on your behalf. I said no, resoundingly. He, interestingly, said yes, but was moderately ambivalent. Youngest, unequivocally said ‘no – people either like me or they don’t. I’m not letting anyone tell me how I should look’ and honestly – I was proud; both of her… and of myself, for having a 13 year old girl who I’d instilled with enough self confidence to feel that way.

    Also, I’ve been reading the Fat Heffalump blog you have in your blogroll and it’s been an interesting and thought provoking experience – so thanks for linking to that! And I remembered to change my comment name and details *cheers*

    • That’s exactly it – I love her attitude as well – and it’s the attitude I’d like to have myself.

      I’m impressed by your daughter, that takes a lot of personal strength, and at such a young age! Heck, I’m 31 in a couple of weeks and I have difficulty saying that *lol* Some days I can, other days I cannot.

      I wouldn’t want to be a size 0 of today’s ideals though. It’s way too skinny and I don’t actually think it looks good. I prefer a bit of curves. Women should have hips – dammit!

      But in the end – I think we should embrace all bodies. There are people who are skinny and want to gain weight and can’t (can I just say I hate them though? okay I don’t.. I don’t.. but it seems unfair they can’t gain it while I can’t lose it *lol*). Bodies are beautiful in all sizes and shapes. I just find it frustrating that the world at large generally accept people who are too skinny a lot easier than they do people who are on the opposite side.

      How did the haircut go?

  2. I had a friend who genuinely couldn’t put on weight. She ate like… well… she ate like she had a gut full of tapeworms, to be honest (if a little crude) and she never gained an ounce. And she was miserable about it. She loved being pregnant because she finally got to have boobs. We used to joke that I’d give her half my body weight, then we’d be two ‘normal’ sized women… But seriously, she taught me that lots of people have body image issues. And women who are really thin and can’t put on weight get as much hassle as those of us who maybe should lost a few pounds (people used to lecture her about the dangers of anorexia/bulimia. Of which she had neither.)

    I think being really slender and elegant is great for wearing clothes and making them look good. I loved myself the most when I was a UK size 16 ( I have *no* idea what that is in European sizes) which is still considered big by both society and the media. But damn I was hawt! I had boobs and hips and a bum, and a real wasp waist and yeah… I’d happily be that again now. But I don’t beat myself up about it.

    And haircut is probably the best one I have ever had, and will doubtless be dissected in minute detail in my next blog post ๐Ÿ™‚

    • My brother’s girlfriend is exactly like that! She eats about the same as we do and yet won’t put on weight. She has had an issue with eating though and would only eat candy and drink energy drinks. But trust me – if I lived on Red Bull and candy I’d gain weight, not lose it!

      She’s currently pregnant (as per previous post hehe) and is hoping to keep a little of the weight she’s put on. I guess we’ll have to see ๐Ÿ™‚

      When I look back at what I looked like a few years ago I really liked the size I was then – and I’d love to get back there. But I’m not sure I ever will. (I was a UK size 12) If I can get to a size 16 though, I could deal with that ๐Ÿ˜‰ I’ve always been round and I don’t think I’d feel like “me” if I was perfectly slender. I’m used to rounded hips and big boobs *lol* Fortunately, it seems some men don’t mind ๐Ÿ˜›

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