I’ve not been feeling up to snuff lately so I’ve been watching a lot of movies. Some of them I watched during the weekend when “he” was visiting, but I’ve been watching quite a few since as well.

The other night though I started watching Bride Wars, and I don’t know if I just wasn’t in the right mood, or what it was – but I only managed to watch it for a while before it was annoying me so much I had top turn it off.

The premise of the movie is that these two girls have been friends for like 20 years – they’re really great friends. And because of a mistake their weddings end up on the same date in the same place (the one they’ve both coveted for said 20 years apparently).

There are several things about this movie that doesn’t sit right with me.

1. These girls have been friends for 20 years – the date of their weddings ruins this? Really?

2. Why can’t they just have a double wedding? It’s made out to be a big no no in this movie. If they’re that great friends, I don’t see the issue?

3. The way it’s made up is that getting married is THE BIGGEST THING EVER and what they’ve been waiting for their entire lives. As if there is nothing as important as getting married. Heck, one of them can’t even wait for her guy to propose, she just doesn’t have the patience. And in fact before that she’s found a box from Tiffany’s and assumes he’s going to propose and tells all her girlfriends that she’s engaged. Who does that?

Don’t get me wrong. If you’ve gotten married I’m sure you’re wedding was a great day and really important to you. I think that your wedding day should be special to you, but because of what it stands for – pledging your love to the person you want to spend the rest of your life with.

In this movie the guys barely seem to be important, it’s all about THE WEDDING. To me that just doesn’t sit right. Nor does the whole idea of that it’s all a girl’s ever wanted – to get married and have a big wedding.

Maybe it’s just me, but it’s not such a huge deal to me. Sure, I hope to eventually find a guy that I love enough and who loves me enough that we want to spend the rest of our lives together. And sure, I’m old-fashioned enough to want to have a proper wedding.

But it doesn’t have to be a big thing. And it’s not the most important thing about it -the most important thing is the vows and the love. Not where the wedding is or how much it costs or any of those things.

Maybe the movie gets better later on. I might try to finish it one of these days. Has anyone else seen it? Did you like it?

Other movies I’ve been watching lately:


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  1. This: “Heck, one of them can’t even wait for her guy to propose, she just doesn’t have the patience” was me. In fact I didn’t even propose. I said, as I was exiting the bedroom to use the loo, the night before we went on holiday (last August) words to the effect of “You are going to marry me aren’t you?” and fled down the stairs… In fairness, we had only been dating for about 6 weeks. When I returned Himself said “Yes, of course!”…

    In England we have a terribad show called ‘Don’t Tell The Bride’ the premise of which is that husband to be does ALL the wedding planning with NO input from the bride, her family or her friends. Yeah… ‘cos that’s gonna work (actually, most of the time it does) and yesterday’s episode (which I was watching with Daughter, it’s not my usual taste) had the sister of the bride to be obsessing in case the groom picked the same flowers as she was having at her wedding next year. And it was all ‘omg he’s *so* better not pick [x flower]’, never mind ‘I hope that he does what my sister wants’… The other thing that annoys me too is the thing about it all being about the wedding. Honestly, I wanted to marry Himself so badly, I’d have married him in the street with two witnesses, in the rain at 3am on a Sunday morning. What mattered was our vows and our promises, which was borne out by that being the only bits of the wedding I can remember…

    Not seen any of the others, though Daughter has seen bridesmaids and enjoyed it.

    • Oh, don’t get me wrong – I have nothing against the woman proposing at all. It was the fact that she’d found what she suspected was the ring.. and couldn’t wait a few days for him to pop the question! Again it just came down to the feeling that the “getting married” was more important than the love and feelings in general.

      I think that was my issue with the movie really. As you say, it’s about your vows and your promises.. not about the venue or which flowers were there. Of course people want their weddings to be special, I’m not saying that anyone should feel that they have to go in rags and get married on the curb (unless of course they’re really into that! 😛 ).. everyone deserves to have a nice wedding if they want one.. It was the whole.. the wedding was the biggest thing ever, and the guys just didn’t seem important at all.

      It really should be about the vows and promises..

      I don’t know.. the movie just didn’t sit right with me *lol* Does it get better? Should I try to finish it? 😛

      Oh, and I really do recommend Bridesmaids!

      • Haven’t seen the movie so I don’t know. I have a general *shudder* thing going on with ‘wedding movies’ as so often they just get tied up in OMG The Wedding, and like Alq says, it’s not that that’s the important bit!

        I loved my wedding, don’t get me wrong, but it was Himself who pushed for us to have a big ‘do’. I would, in all seriousness, have married him in front of two witnesses, actually that was my preferred option… but when it came to it, and especially now I have the photos as my screen saver, I’m glad we had our friends and family there, all the people that matter to us, and that we have memories (very few in my case! Thank goodness for photos!) to treasure.

        That said, Himself is weirdly attached to My best Friend’s Wedding… and I haven’t seen that either!

        • My Best Friend‘s Wedding is quite funny and really more of a comedy. It‘s worth a watch I‘d say.

          I think I‘ll skip trying to finish watching Bride Wars. I don‘t think my nerves could handle it! Got lots of movies still to watch, so plenty of other (better?) choices. 🙂

  2. Oh heavens, I hate that obsession with weddings so much. Don’t get me wrong, I’m married, have been for almost 12 years and am happy with the state of things…but….

    ….so much these days seems to be about The Wedding and how amazing it will be. And how you have to have this and that – I worked on a Bridal magazine for a few years, sourcing images and prices, and falling over backwards at what was necessary. “It’s your big day, you only get married once, so those menus had better be one offs, perfectly designed and unique to you” and people fall for this shit? I once even heard a radio advert for a wedding thing, which was along the lines of “You’ve got the dress, you’ve got the venue, you’ve got the man”, as if the man was an afterthought and totally down on the list of important things. I looked at my husband, he looked at me and we both exclaimed in amusement and disgust. And yes, there are people like it, sadly. For some it might work out but others? I’m not so sure.

    Ours was an inexpensive affair, registry office, followed by afternoon and evening in a hall we hired for £40 all day, friends in a folk band played in the afternoon, we had buffet food all day and evening, and had rock music in the evening, courtesy of friends who dj-ed for us. Oh, and my mother made the wedding dress. Compared to what people expect to pay for weddings, £10k plus and no change, we were cheapskates. But we were able to have fun and share our day with those we loved, in the way we loved. We also had a really low-key handfasting a couple of weeks later – and those vows I loved. To stay together in love, and if the love dies, then to part amicably, looking after any little ones that were in our care. It was honest, open and loving, and THAT, that’s what a wedding should be about. Love. First and foremost. Anything else is just dressing. And if I had a chance to do it all again with lots of money? I think I’d still do it the same way.

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